A man sees the world as an individual in a hierarchical social order where he is either one above or one down. it’s about status, it’s about negotiations and attempts to make himself the upper hand. it’s a contest, a struggle to preserve his independence.
Man and woman are two different beings. Even while living under the same roof and sleeping on the same bed, conversation between a man and a woman is like cross cultural communication. From a very young age girls play with their best friends or stay in small close knit groups and use language to seek information and reinforce intimacy, whereas boys use language to protect their independence. Like I said it’s a different world and a different way of thinking. Men like authority in their relationship where as women crave security and intimacy. In this article, I want to point out simple yet very powerful reasoning as to why men act the way they do and how we differ from woman in our mentality.
As we all know men and women live in two different worlds. No matter how much we talk about equal rights the truth is society still sees a man as the main provider. Even in a society where a household can’t sustain with just one person’s income, a man being above the woman still prevails. Sad but true!
A Man’s World
When a man engages in a conversation he engages in way he was taught to, as an individual in a hierarchical social order where he is one up or one down. When you see a man disagreeing with his wife , he is trying to achieve and maintain the upper hand and protect himself from being the under dog. An argument or a simple conversation for a man is a contest, a struggle to preserve independence and avoid failure.
A Woman’s World
Women, on the other hand see the world as a network of connections. They look at the world as an individual who is a part of network of connections. A conversation for a woman is negotiation for closeness not be the upper hand. Life to a woman is a community where they try to preserve intimacy and avoid isolation.
What do you think? Am I right? Think men, think! And if you are a woman throw some suggestion and views and opinion at me. It’s always better to see how the world looks from your side and learn more.
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1 Ira Sharma // Feb 17, 2010 at 18:31
Hi!
This may be true on a broader perspective. But I still feel that all humans are different individually. It is not true that all men are authoritative and women are submissive. Instead the description of a man you gave fits in what I do most of the time ( being a woman)
I appreciate healthy conversation but I like to see people agreeing to what I say.
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