Does that sound familiar to you? That’s the statement that comes out of most dad when they see their little boy playing with a doll. They run to their little boy and grab the doll from their hands and ask them a question that goes something like this, “What the hell are you doing? Are you a girl? Do you want to be a girl?”. The little boy, who by now is soaked in tears says, ” But dad, I just wanted to see the doll and play with it. I am not trying to be a girl. ” And then comes the talk from the clueless dad to his little child on why he should be playing with toys such as cars, trucks, guns and G.I. Joes. And usually the reasoning is the same - Cause that’s what men do!!!

That’s what men do! There it is, the very statement that makes a little boy feel guilty of his doing which by no means is Wrong. His thoughts start wondering in places bouncing through the walls in his head ” I wasn’t trying to be a girl. I just wanted to play with it. I don’t know why dad got so mad at me. ” The last post I talked about societal pressure on men on how they should act as a man doesn’t come naturally. They are embedded in a child’s mind while they are young and susceptible to any information they gain. Dad, uncle, brother and all other males they are all a part of society and it is the society that is ruining the mentality of young children.

If you are one of the dads who’s ever done that, I have nothing against you. I have a thing against society that made you feel the way you do on what a child’s toy should be based upon depending on his sex. Let’s analyze why your little boy might be playing with dolls or dressing up with his mom’s clothes.

Questions Need Answers

Imagine yourself in a world where everything needs to explored. You see people doing things and enjoying themselves but you don’t have a clue what they are doing. It’s mostly the opposite sex but you do see some men having a good time. You want answers but you are scared, you are in a world where you feel you are small. You want answers but the truth is you want to experience it yourself. You want that joy, that excitement they are getting out of that thing, not just an answer.

Now think of a little boy playing with a doll. Compare yourself with what I have just written above. What do you think a kid as young as 2-3 years old is doing while playing with a doll? He is trying to find an answer. Answers to questions such as “Why is my older sister always playing with them?” or “Do these things talk? My sister is always talking to them?” So next time you see your little boy playing with a doll think before you make assumptions. Act like an adult and think!

How Can They Do This

The other thing children are constantly curious about is how someone can do something so effectively or how someone can enjoy something so much. This might be one of the reason, in my opinion why most boys try to play with dolls. Watching their older siblings play with them and enjoy generates curiosity in them. They just want to find out how some of the things that they don’t own ( since they are not his toys ) work. Let them be, let them explore and satisfy their curiosity. All they are doing is finding answers and getting their curiosity taken care of.

I Want Something New

How long can something gain a child’s attention? Not for too long! This is one of the reason young boys start looking for other options such as dressing up like a girl or playing with dolls. They just want excitement and something else they can connect with. Also how do you feel when u break a system that just isn’t satisfying your needs? Rebellious! And sometimes a young child wants to be rebellious. That is another reason you might find them playing with dolls or girly toys for that matter. But is it really wrong? No it isn’t. Why would it be wrong? I can’t think of a single reason, can you?

I Need Attention

A child’s attention craving is high as you already know. Children will throw tantrum and cry and whine until they get some attention and this is nothing new. It’s natural. So next time you see your boy playing with a doll may be he is just craving some attention. If you are a caring and a loving dad you would join him and play with the doll just to show him that there is nothing wrong. I remember the day I played the Bratz doll with my son. I have four children, 3 girls and a boy. I seen him playing with a doll one day and I went and joined him. The reason is simple because there is nothing wrong with it. He sees his sisters playing, talking and enjoying their dolls and all he wants to do is have his share at it too.

A little boy playing with a doll isn’t a bad thing. Think men, think! Why would it be wrong? He is a just a little child trying to find answers to questions, gain attention, be rebellious and try something new. That’s all it is. There is nothing wrong with it. Next time you see him doing that, let him be! Better yet join him and share the fun.

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